Even if you aren’t ready to leave yet, there are some things you can do to help prepare you in the event that you need to get away. Gather the following items and leave them in a place where your abuser cannot find them:
Emergency Kit
- $50 or more in cash
- A small bag with extra clothing for you and your children
- Any important papers, including
- Bank account information
- ATM or debit cards
- Social Security Number/cards for yourself and children
- Partner’s Social Security Number
- Insurance policies
- Marriage license
- Birth certificates for you and your children
- School and vaccination records
- List of important phone numbers (family and friends)
- Sentimental valuables and photos
- Medications for you and your children
- Extra keys for house and car
Our Center can provide shelter or other services to assist you, including legal assistance such as Domestic Violence Protection Orders.
If you do leave, do not tell your partner where you are going.
The most dangerous time for domestic violence victims is the 48-hour period after they’ve left. It is best if you “lie low” for this two-day period and do not go to any places your abuser may expect to find you. Do not agree to go back alone to meet or talk with your partner; if you need to return for your belongings, ask the police to escort you. You may want to alert your friends and family, and possibly your children’s teachers or school counselor, if you feel there’s a risk your abuser may come looking for you or your children.